By Rita Santamaria
The definition of a Defining Moment is that point where the essential character of a person is revealed.
In every person’s life there are moments in time that literally stand still. Those moments can be brought forward by the instant recall in your brain. There are both negative and positive defining moments.
Those events that entered your psyche or consciousness with an impact that changed your life direction are defining moments. There are times when the impact was so dramatic that it changed the core of who you are or your business direction.
There are moments where those choices set you on a new path. Those choices may have determined who or what you have become.
Some people have specifically set out to establish a defining moment such as a time when you may have been very poor and in need. You might have made a promise to yourself that you will never be in need again. You can probably recall exactly where you were and what the day was like. There may be odors or smells that bring the instant recall to mind. I would also believe whatever commitment you made about whatever the issue, you have stuck to that promise to yourself.
Managers have defining moments from time to time, whether they intended to or not. You believe people to be honest and have integrity. Then you discover an employee has violated that trust. Perhaps that trust was violated through a dishonest dealing or maybe out and out stealing took place. The manager is setting the direction for the business on a whole based on how they react to this moment of revelation.
The employee who is involved in any conference which has as the purpose a need for change will have a defining moment. A resolve of some type will be the outcome of that conference. It can be a career changing event.
The person who has a serious illness and is counseled by their doctor to change their lives or the illness will get worse will generally have a defining moment. Turning away from bad habits could be the outcome of that defining moment.
- Approach your defining moments straight on.
- Prepare yourself for the change.
- Approach your plan for instituting the change.
- Define in writing how you will go about making the change.
- Then enforce whatever you choose to do to make a change. Enforce means hold yourself to your personal commitment. Don’t make exceptions.
Defining moments are not goals. Defining moments are the events that cause you to realize you need new direction and, therefore, new goals.
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Rita Santamaria is the owner of Champions School of Real Estate. She can be contacted at www.Championsschool.com or www.TheChampionsProfessional.com.
