Professionals who succeed the most are the products of mentoring. I heartily endorse that find a great mentor. I have had many excellent ones in my long career and have in turn mentored hundreds of others.
The mentor is a resource for business trends, societal issues and opportunities. The mentor becomes a role model, offering insights about their own life-career. The mentor is an advocate for progress and change. Such work empowers the mentee to hear, accept, believe and get results. The sharing of trust and ideas leads to developing business philosophies. The mentor stands for mentees throughout their careers and celebrates their successes. This is a lifelong dedication toward mentorship…in all aspects of one’s life.
The most significant lessons that I learned in my business life from mentors, verified with experience, are shared here:
- You cannot go through life as a carbon copy of someone else.
- You must establish your own identity, which is a long, exacting process.
- As you establish a unique identity, others will criticize. Being different, you become a moving target.
- People criticize you because of what you represent, not who you are. It is rarely personal against you. Your success may bring out insecurities within others. You might be what they cannot or are not willing to become.
- If you cannot take the dirtiest job in any company and do it yourself, then you will never become “management.”
- Approach your career as a body of work. This requires planning, purpose and commitment. It’s a career, not just a series of jobs.
- The person who is only identified with one career accomplishment or by the identity of one company for whom he-she formerly worked is a one-hit wonder and, thus, has no body of work.
- The management that takes steps to “fix themselves” rather than always projecting problems upon other people will have a successful organization.
- It’s not when you learn. It’s that you learn.
- Many people do without the substantive insights into business because they have not really developed critical thinking skills.
- Analytical and reasoning skills are extensions of critical thinking skills.
- You perform your best work for free. How you fulfill commitments and pro-bono work speaks to the kind of professional that you are.
- People worry so much what others think about them. If they knew how little others thought, they wouldn’t worry so much. This too is your challenge to frame how they see you and your company.
- Fame is fleeting and artificial. The public is fickle and quick to jump on the newest flavor, without showing loyalty to the old ones, especially those who are truly original. Working in radio, I was taught, “They only care about you when you’re behind the microphone.”
- The pioneer and “one of a kind” professional has a tough lot in life. It is tough to be first or so far ahead of the curve that others cannot see it. Few will understand you. Others will attain success with portions of what you did. None will do it as well.
- Consumers are under-educated and don’t know the substance of a pioneer. Our society takes more to the copycats and latest fads. Only the pioneer knows and appreciates what he-she really accomplished. That reassurance will have to be enough.
- Life and careers include peaks and valleys. It’s how one copes during the “down times” that is the true measure of success.
- Long-term success must be earned. It is not automatic and is worthless if ill-gotten. The more dues one pays, the more you must continue paying.
- The next best achievement is the one you’re working on now, inspired by your body of knowledge to date.
- The person who never has aggressively pursued a dream or mounted a series of achievements cannot understand the quest of one with a deeply committed dream.
- A great percentage of the population does not achieve huge goals but still admires and learns from those who do persevere and succeed. The achiever thus becomes a lifelong mentor to others.
- Achievement is a continuum, but it must be benchmarked and enjoyed along the way.